Let’s face it. In school we learn survival skills and hopefully – at least in the better schools – skills that improve our intellect and our ability to think and to create. Yet I am not aware of any required course in school that teaches us how to interact successfully by expressing our needs and feelings, as well as how to listen respectfully to the needs and feelings of others, and how to deal with emotions in a safe way. No school courses are available that teach the difference between how men and women approach sexuality, how to date successfully, and how to start a healthy sexual relationship.
And yet these are skills that are called upon far more regularly in adult life than, say, calculus. I am convinced that if students were taught these human interaction skills alongside the requisite reading, writing, math and science, we would live in a better world. There would be fewer divorces, less depression and happier people.
Sexuality and emotional maturity are at the basis of functional relationships and fulfillment. Yet, most people in America get married without knowing the fundamentals for a healthy and vibrant, engaged relationship. So when the sparks of their original attraction to their spouse are gone, they are left with a deep disappointment and a sense of failure. About 50% of all marriages end up in divorce within the first 2 years. Not a good picture!
Psychotherapy helps couples that discover they are in trouble and are willing spend money to get help they need. They learn to own their contribution to the breakdown of the marriage, and to communicate effectively about it. However, psychotherapy has its limits – most noticeably in how to help couples in the arena of sex, which is at the base of most couples’ problems.
My workshop “Booming Relationships”, specifically designed for Baby Boomers, helps clear the misconceptions we grow up with, and gives you the tools you need to break the old habits that can destroy relationships and to learn new ways of seeing the relationship as a loving team. This is all done in a safe space by tuning in to the specific needs of the couples in the workshop. People who attend ‘Booming Relationships’ learn communication skills they can use to undo the damage created by unknowing behavior, and to restore the love that was in their marriages before those old habits created separation between them.
‘Booming Relationships’ offers the essential knowledge to start and maintain a healthy, vibrant and joyous relationship. You will learn how touch can open up the heart and how looking at each other in a non-judgmental way can let you enter into the core of who you are and feel the love that is sometimes buried under unexpressed anger and projections. Stripping away those old emotions gets you in touch with the natural lover you really are.
Midlife is a great time for you to learn what school neglected to provide you with. In Midlife you can appreciate the importance of knowing how to connect more deeply and spend more pleasurable time during all the stages of lovemaking: foreplay, love-play, and afterglow. It is during foreplay that you open each other’s heart to fully give and receive pleasure with conscious and loving attention. Foreplay is actually called a “reawakening sexuality phase,” which starts way before any physical touching or kissing occurs. For example, it could start in the morning when one of you says: “I can’t wait to take you in my arms and melt with you when you come back tonight…”
Do you remember how many phone calls you would make when you first started going out together? You fantasized about each other; you paid a lot of attention to your hairdo, and your clothes. . . You couldn’t wait to see each other . . . By the time you saw each other you were already turned on. You talked for hours about your hopes, your dreams, and your values.
“Booming Relationships” inspires you to re-create those times no matter how long you have been together, respecting one another’s choice and supporting each other in any way possible while focusing and re-enforcing all your lover’s good qualities. This creates an enormous good will that can greatly help you resolve problems that might occur.
It also helps you to expand the peace and the pleasure that you can experience, leading to a body/soul merging that takes you into each other’s core essence.
My many years as a Tantra teacher help me explain techniques to bring couples extremely close emotionally, with great results on all levels, such as full-body orgasms for both men and women, men staying awake after climax, and women climaxing during intercourse, just to mention a few.
In my ‘Booming Relationships’ workshop for Baby Boomers you will learn the most essential techniques based on the most basic Tantric principles that have to do with the use of intention, breathing, verbal and non-verbal communication, nurturing the relationship by being uncovering your romantic soul and dedicating more quality time to lovemaking. Healing possible wounds happens much faster when those skills are in place. You learn how to transform negative emotions that might show up and threaten to drive you apart.
Even if you are great lovers now, I know that you can take the depth of your love and your sexual skills to a deeper level while you absorbing and integrating healthy knowledge.
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